Are you childfree? And do you regret it?

Question

So my partner and I are pretty young, 25 & 27. We’ve been together for 5 years and we live a pretty active lifestyle. He’s a firefighter and I’m a disabled vet, so I’ve recently taken time away from being a dental hygienist to work on my mental health. We’re always out hiking, at the dog park, checking out local events, and pretty much doing anything that involves our dog being active too. We also smoke a fair amount of weed lol.
We had a twin miscarriage back in Feb 2015 and I was shattered. I was severely depressed and even attempted suicide. Since then, we’ve been trying to get pregnant again with no luck. I started reading on Reddit about people who are fence sitters and don’t really know if they want kids. And that’s kinda where I’m at right now. The more we talk about having children, the more we both agree that we don’t really feel the need to have one anymore. We enjoy our lifestyle, each other, and love the freedom we have. But I’m afraid we will regret not having kids? Like I’m afraid we will get old and be like 60 with no children to enjoy our lives with and watch grow. I also don’t want to be lonely as hell if my partner dies before me. So I don’t know if I actually want a baby or just want one because I have FOMO 😰 
Has anyone been through this—being a fence sitter? Did you decide not to have kids and do you enjoy it or regret it? How did you finally decide you wanted to have a baby? (So this doesn’t apply if you “accidentally” got pregnant) 
And if you lived an active lifestyle before your baby, how much did that change? 
*—we are using protection for now because we are so unsure 😐
**childfree meaning no children at all.

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Dont have one unless you're really, really sure... you cant exactly return them if you dont like them😬😅
I've always felt like kids were never for me but that I'd probably have one cause most people do. I'll leave a few reasons here that made me know for definite I never want them. 
1. Overpopulation- this is probably the main reason. The planet is already so overpopulated already that we cannot continue to live on it without damaging the plants, wildlife and environment around us.
Why would I want to a) bring a poor child into a dying world, b) make that child part of the problem of the dying world? I think we need to focus on saving what's already here rather than creating more.
2. Babies take up every bit of your attention, you dont live for you anymore, you live for them. You are now not priority in your own life and dont have a great deal of time for yourself.
 No more lie ins, no more staying up all night Netflix binging cause it doesn't matter what time you get up, no more expendable income unless you get a hell of a decent pay rise. Meals with the other half suddenly mean paying a babysitter or taking a screaming child to the restaurant.
3. The only thing worse than being pregnant and giving birth for me, is what you get at the end of it.
Kids arent my cuppa tea, I like my house clean, tidy and peaceful and cannot deal with a screaming child making a mess and shitting itself😂 Neither me or my other half look at babies and think 'aww cute, let's have one', it's more of a run the other way than anything, so we decided to give it a miss on the child rearing front and stick to doggies instead🐶
No one should feel forced into having a baby just because it's 'normal' or because parents want grandkids, etc. You do you, the important thing is that you know whatever decision you decide to go with is the right one for you!

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I didn't find someone to have children with until I turned 40. I always said if I didn't have any by 38 I was giving up. I was pregnant for the 1st time at 41 and lost the baby. Now that I am turning 45 I wouldn't even try. Do I feel jipped? Yes, but I do not want to be 65 when my kid is 20.

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My wife is 42, and I am 37. We never wanted to have kids and don’t regret our decision at all. 
We opted for fur babies. Two dogs, and a horse. Works great for us. We wouldn’t change anything.

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I don't have a child and I'm a little older than you. I am very active and enjoy my time doing what I want to do. You can always wait a little while longer  to see how you feel. 60 isnt old..I personally don't think it is. I had worried about that issue... what happens when I get to 80... thought came and went.lol

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Nothing wrong with waiting or not having kids. Not everyone wants 2.5 kids and the more traditional life and thats fantastic. You get to do so much more like travel easier without kids. Me and my hubs went to japan for 2 weeks last year and loved every second. We wanted to enjoy just being us before adding kids to the mix. Well we did that. And now were currently expecting our planned first. Hes 28 and im 27. Been together for almost ten years now total.

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Fence sitting is a-okay! I had my first at 29 and it was an accident. I barely knew the guy. And then we got married. 😂 Don’t know that he ever would have had children had it not happened that way. You have plenty of time. If you don’t want them now (or ever), ENJOY your child free selves. Nothing wrong with that. 
I’m so sorry about your loss. I know how devastating it is. 😢❤️

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I didn’t want kids at all my entire life after I met my husband now he we never talked about it we got pregnant accidentally early on in our relationship and had a miscarriage and it broke the both of us . That’s when I realised I actually wanted kids or even one child. Fast forward towards the end of last year I fell pregnant again I was on birth control it failed but we were over the moon we eloped and got married that same week and now we’re 31 weeks pregnant in patiently waiting for our little baby boy to be born . My life is still pretty much the same Im a very active person I work 14 hours shifts me and my husband love being out and doing stuff we figure we can do all that’s just now we are 3 of us instead of 2 
But good luck either way you decide it’s completely you and your partners choice if u both are on the same page about having kids then that’s it , it’s great I know a lot of couples with no children and they do not regret it

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We’re super active and have had no issues with having our baby. Before he was two we even took him to Hawaii and Disneyland 4 times. We hike and are constantly doing day trips. Our son loves it and we actually have number two on the way. 
Family has always been important to us though. We want a decent sized one because neither of us ever did. To each their own but I can’t imagine not have a child. It comes with this immense love that’s like nothing else. 
Best of luck making your decision!

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