Hi y’all I’m in need of some advice.

I don’t feel comfortable shaving down there, multiple times for me it’s lead to ingrown hairs and just general discomfort. (Please note I have spd so off textures just ain’t it for me.) Normally I just use clippers to maintain it but I hate shaving hair off completely as it’s very uncomfortable to me. I don’t know if this is normal/socially acceptable or not...? Every woman I’ve talked to about it says they’d rather be shaved than unshaven which makes me think I should shave it all

too. I don’t know if a sexual partner would find it unattractive and I just am starting to feel self conscious about it. Any advice?