Any of you believe your partner should be allowed to complain about your emotions? (Read description)

I've read so many posts about pregnant women and their partners butting heads because her emotions get heightened by hormones. A lot of women feel that their partners shouldn't be able to complain or question their feelings because they are the ones carrying a baby (or more!) Inside them for 9 months. Is that really the case though? If your partner gets frustrated with you, aren't they allowed to discuss that frustration? Yes, hormones are terrible but we all admit that some of our outbursts weren't really caused by them.

I think the partners are allowed to complain. Sometimes we forget that they have feelings, too. Our partners are there by our side throughout the whole pregnancy. They're experience it with you. They also have to deal with our hormones, the cravings, the anxiety. How is it fair for us to breathe down their backs and expect them to be fine with it, just because we're pregnant.

On Saturday (4/27), my boyfriend had to go to work at 5:30am, an hour earlier. His hours changed and I understood that. I packed his lunch, prepared his coffee, the usual. He kissed us goodbye and left. Now, he doesn't have service at the moment because he wasnt able to pay it in time so we couldn't get in contact with eachother. I spent the day cleaning, taking care of our son, cooking. I wanted everything to look good. We both assumed he'd only work until 12. I waited for him. No big deal. I got myself all prettied up for once, got our son ready. It was a good day to go to the park. 4pm (when he was supposed to get out of work) and he still didnt come home. I started to get anxious. I really missed him and wanted him to come back. 5pm, nothing. 6pm i started to get upset. He was nowhere to be found and we are here at the house waiting. I thought, maybe he went with his friends after work. Maybe something bad has happened. Maybe he didn't want to come home today. Maybe he got tired of us. Never thought he had fo stay late. 6:30pm. He got home, very excited and happy to see me. I was very upset. Of course instead of asking why he came home late, my hormones made me cry uncontrollably in our room. I was angry, worried, feeling like poop. He held me and was asking what was wrong, still in his dirty work clothes. He didnt even get to hug our son and he was waiting for his daddy as much as i was. He kept asking if he did something wrong, if im in pain, something happen to our son, what happened. Me, in all the crying, couldnt get a single word out my mouth to tell him why i was crying. Instead, his words made me cry even more. In all this i had forgotten that he's tired from work and he was happy to see me. My boyfriend kneeled beside me, his hand tightly on mine. And he just started crying. I've only seen him cry once before. I tried to pull him up next to me because his pain hurt more than anything. He pushed me away, softly. He got up and went to the living room in tears. Our son followed. I sat there on the bed, dumbfounded by what had just happened. I go to him and he's hysterical. Just crying with our boy trying to comfort him. I try to get him to stop and he says "All i ever do is work in the fields just for you and our family to give you a good life and i come home tired and i see you crying. It hurts me because i can't figure out what i did wrong. I don't deserve all the anger you had towards me. I love you with all my heart and i know you can't help it because of the hormones but don't you think i hurt seeing you like that? I never want to see or make my wife cry and seems like I'm always doing something wrong." At this point I'm overwhelmed by the emotion of him going off on me and me realizing how selfish i sounded. All i said is "you're right. I'm sorry" i went back to the room, laid down and just didn't do anything after that. He came back to the room, held me tight and said "you're all i ever asked for, my spoiled brat. Stop crying already I'm sorry i came home late and went off on you."

After all that it made me realize how my emotions were affecting him. How i was making him feel like he's not enough for us. Even though i think he's wayy more than I'd ever expect from him. It took one time for him to speak up to make me realize I am wrong. Because i thought he knew my hormones are crazy. I thought he was stronger than me and was just taking it. In reality, he feels as much as i do.

I'm sorry for the long post but it felt great to finally get it off my chest.