Starting to think of baby #2

Hey all,

I'm 3 months PP with my first that was an UNPLANNED csection that was very traumatic. I was completely under general anesthesia, and it was just hard. I definitely am not having another baby any time soon, but just kinda thinking. My husband is ok with not having any more kids due to seeing me go thru that traumatic birth and all the pain he says the decision is totally up to me.

That said, I am thinking about another baby eventually and wanting to to a vbac. I'm just gonna put my thiughts/questions in bullets so it's easier

1. I'm scared of attempting a vbac and having it just end up in another c section and feeling like a failure...again

2. If I want a vbac I have to find another dr. My dr office doesn't do them because they don't have a dr o

In the Hospital at all times and I guess that's the Hospitals requirement.

3. My first baby was born 9lbs15oz. I was told if my baby is measuring more than 9lbs they wont let me try a vbac next time is that true, did u have a vbac with a big baby? What makes a big baby besides gesational diabetes? Can I prevent it?

4.at what point does it make more sense to just have another c Section? I am afraid of another c section because the spinal failed and I had to go all the way under sp I missed her birth 💔

Any mommas with any advice? Planning on waiting minimum 1 yeaR most likely 2 years before getting pregnant again. I want to enjoy this baby first, but trying to get over my traumatic birth