Mother in law question.

It’s probably not what you think.

I’m having my second son, and my husband and I are done having kids after this one. I’ve been struggling throughout my pregnancy with some disappointment not that this baby is another boy but that I’ll never have a daughter. People keep telling me maybe you’ll have a niece. Okay, cuz that’s the same? Maybe you’ll have a daughter in law the loves you. That happens all the time 😒 get a girl dog. 🙄🙄🙄

I’m not sure why people think any of that is helpful. I know they mean well.

But I don’t have a good relationship with my mom, and while my mother in law is like...okay...it would make no difference to her probably if she never saw me again. Her son and grandson (my son) are everything to her but I could literally stop existing and nothing would change for her. The mother daughter thing - I’ve always wanted it. I’ll never have it. She gets to raise my kid anyway because I have to work so she gets all the things that most mother’s in law only dream of but new moms normally go to their own moms for. I won’t have that either because if my sons marry theres a better than average shot their wives will like their own moms better than they like me. That’s just more likely.

And if you’re like - yeah with this super Eeyore vibe you’ve got going I wouldn’t blame them, I totally get it. I’m not in a great headspace right now and I hope you’ll all forgive my garbage today.

What I’m looking for here is stories that show that what I’m expecting is t necessarily going to happen. Would any of you want your mother in law around your kid a lot? Would or did any of you like your mother in law enough to include her in special moments like wedding dress shopping or visiting at the hospital after the birth of a baby? Do any of you have an actual warm, loving relationship with your mother in law, where you trust her and confide in her and love her? Because if my sons choose to marry, a daughter in law is as close as I’ll ever get to having a nice mother daughter relationship with SOMEONE.