Separation/divorce

I have signed separation papers but I just filed divorce papers bc I am done with it. I dont want to chance abuse anymore. I want to allow him to move on without feeling guilty if he falls when 'separated'. Vice versa. I truly believe him and I will be better off as just coparents and possibly friends (if he acts correctly and doesnt get jealous if I ever have another male friend). My children are number 1 priority!