Addiction? Update**thank you all!

Update——thank you guys for all the input I’ve been realizing I can’t expect perfection and have been trying to work on expecting things to be done on my timeline all the time. I guess the thing that gets to me is the dependency on smoking to feel better I know he has to be feeling something that he’s masking and I would just like if there was a healthier outlet for it. His brother died not even 2 years ago and it hurts him, you can see it all over his face. I just don’t know how to bring up therapy without him getting upset saying he’s not addicted to anything and doesn’t need help.

I’ll try to back off for awhile and see if that helps not having the pressure on all the time, thanks guys!

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I’ve been with my husband for 8 years now and we just welcomed our baby boy this February, he’s been great with him and helping me with anything around the house. I mean really.. we’re buying our house we just got into on New Years and he fixed the whole place up top to bottom with my designs. He’ll almost always burp and change baby if he’s home and I ask. He’s such a provider for being so young(24).

The problem is we’ve been together since high school and when we started dating yes we partied but had expectations of ourselves. We drank and occasionally smoked but by the last year of high school and start of my college career the ‘occasional’ part went away for me and grew for him. He would always say he would quit smoking the day he had his family, first it was marriage and when he was smoking later that week after the wedding that was our first big fight as a married couple. Then he said he would quit if I were pregnant or the time we moved into our house and we had our baby... well all the milestones have passed and he has quit smoking cigarettes so I do not want to undermine that! But he’s still smoking weed every day.

He was trying to transition just into vaping with the thc oils but there’s still regular smoking. Will not do it around me or baby or in the house! But I’m just at a loss rn... we’ve had so many fights before and gone back and forth so many times and I know it’s an addiction at this point he literally can’t stop or he’ll be pissed at everything and everyone around.

How can I help?!

I know he needs therapy, everyone can, but he gets so upset at the topic and will not hear me out if I mutter the word addiction or help.

It hasn’t worked cold turkey, hasn’t worked weaning off of it, I just dk what to do.

Btw yes I know it’s just weed but It’s a problem at this point