Unexpected Pregnancy with a Guy That’s Not my Husband...

This is going to be a long post. I really debated even posting this because I know I’m probably going to get a lot of backlash for it... but I can’t keep it to myself anymore and I’m really scared and really nervous.

So my husband deployed in the winter. In February I found out that I possibly had a miscarriage. We never found out 100%, it was just speculation. We’d been trying for a year and a half at that point. My husband and I got in a really bad spot together where we were talking about separating and things just weren’t going well. It was like everything in our marriage was crumbling and then not being able to talk about anything made it that much worse. He and I hadn’t been on good terms for a LONG TIME.

In that time he and I agreed that we could sleep with other people. We just agreed that we wouldn’t really talk about it unless we had to. I know its messy and not a great idea, but it’s too late to change it now.

I went on birth control the beginning of March and took it until the end of April. Then I had to stop it and wait to try a different one. I was under the impression that I wouldn’t ovulate for a month after stopping birth control, and so I had unprotected sex at the end of April.

Well my husband and I finally talked again. We both agreed that we weren’t happy with how things were but that we didn’t want to separate or divorce... so we decided to stop sleeping with or talking to other people and once he gets home we are going to try marriage counseling and we’re going to try whatever we can to make our marriage work.

I did tell my husband about having sex with someone else. He told me that he hadn’t, but it was fine. His only thing was that he doesn’t want me to talk to him about it at all.

But I recently have been taking pregnancy tests and they are all coming back positive, shockingly. I’m pregnant and I’m terrified and really confused. I feel so guilty and not sure what to do with myself. I told my husband about the possible pregnancy and he just told me “he doesn’t want to talk about it until I know for sure.” I tried talking to the guy and he said he doesn’t want to be involved or anything other then he wants pics of the baby and updates on everything. I just feel alone. I’m scared. Idk what to do.