Feel useless in this marriage

I feel like no matter what I do my husband will never be satisfied. I was a stay at home mom who cleaned every chance I got, who cooked him and the kids supper and always kept laundry done. Well he said I don't need to be a stay at home mom anymore bc I'm pointless and not doing a stay at home moms duties. So  I went and got a job which he complained about. Well I work different shifts Either 8am-3pm or 3pm-9pm. Now he is complaining bc the house is a complete disaster and he expects me to clean it. I get frustrated and tell him I don't see him cleaning anything either. I work literally everyday. He has either 3 to 4 days off a week but works 12 hour shifts. So I know neither of us feel like it but I do stuff here and there and he doesn't want that. He wants it all done or he starts an argument saying I'm lazy. And like I said when I point out that he doesn't do anything either he says well I work harder than you. I'm so tiered of all of it. I don't know what to do all I can do is cry bc I'm upset and mad.