Could be a hot topic! Would you take in a sexaully abused children if you had other children?

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Satistics is if a child is sexually assaulted then they will do the same at one part in their life. If you had a choice to take in a child that has been sexually assaulted all of their lives would you while having other children to care for? Would you take the chance of the child possibly doing or teaching these sexaul acts to the children you have?

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anyone saying no I hope you never ever become foster parents, adopt, take care of other children in your home, or have extended sleepovers because you never actually know what some poor babe has been through.  Not to mention this is basically victim blaming, like this happened to them so they will do it. I mean would you kick out one of your kids if they were sexually abused just because you have other children?

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I was sexually assaulted the first 10 years of my life by my biological father. I was adopted after that. I have never sexually assaulted anyone in my life.

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Your “statistics” are not completely accurate. They have a higher rate of this behavior IF there is no intervention or treatment. By taking these kids in and getting them the help they need you are giving them the necessary tools to heal and live a “normal” life. By refusing to take them and further stigmatizing them you are validating every abuser who ever told them it was their fault. You are furthering their trauma and just as bad as, if not worse than, their abuser.

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Yes. I plan on having a biological kids as well as fostering and adopting. You didn't want word your post correctly and you making it seem as if all children who have been abused will do the same. That's not true

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How could someone say no to this? 
I was sexually abused as a child, and I live in a household along with my 5 other siblings. If you base everything on statistics rather than human interaction then you’ll be a miserable person.
I plan on having biological children of my own as well as fostering and adopting, and you wouldn’t imagine the things those children go through.

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Idk how to answer this. While it’s not the kids fault I do get where the worry comes from. It’s all a case by case basis so it’s not fair to judge a child before knowing them. But say a child IS sexually abused and has been going to therapy but still has tendencies... it’d be real hard to find a family with other children to take them in - like my friend is a social worker and one of her worst stories was of a group of siblings who were molested by their dad and I think one of them would also do it to the younger ones, but it was becoming hard to place them in a home cause they had to stay together as siblings and at the same time the foster parents had to watch out for potential sexual abuse from one of them to the others... my friend said a lot of families couldn’t handle them and they kept getting sent back.

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As someone who was sexually abused this is sad you people think this the only reason why is because no one help us and we think its ok but if help no we wont abuse anyone

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I was sexually assaulted for years as a child as were my siblings. I could never do anything like that to anyone else. My siblings on the other hand continued to do what had happened to them. So it's a hard question for me. I said no just because of my past. My children are my life and I would do anything and everything to keep them from that.

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I know both men and women who were sexually assaulted as children. None of them have grown up to sexually assault kids themselves 🤦🏼‍♀️
And yes, it’s not the child’s fault what happened to them. They need a home and to know they’re safe. My family fostered kids my whole life, I’m sure some of them were sexually assaulted. None of them every tried to harm any of us however.

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I was assaulted about six years ago. I didn’t go to anyone about it. I didn’t talk to my parents about it, my counselors about it. No one. I stayed silent for years about it because I was afraid everyone would look at me differently. It was about three years after it happened before I even told my friends. I felt ashamed by it and like it made me dirty. It takes a lot of courage to step up and actually tell people what happened to you. I didn’t get the help a lot of people are able to get, but I still feel guilty if I touch people at all. Say I’m meeting someone for the first time and they’re close with my family or friends. They could tell me to feel a certain part of their body. Maybe there’s a knot in their lower back. But I won’t want to touch them. I will feel like I am violating them. Even if they tell me to do it, I’ll always be worried if I hurt them or make them feel uncomfortable. My current boyfriend and I have been starting to do things, but i legit will never make the first move, he has to guide me through everything or I will feel like I am doing something wrong. I’m not comfortable around people and I constantly worry about making them feel the way I felt. Its hard to open up to people about what happened. Not everyone has the same intentions. The best thing you can do is make that person feel understood and loved regardless of the way others have treated them. For the first few years I wanted nothing more than to feel better and be better. I hated being miserable, I hated being paranoid. I hated feeling disgusted in myself. I blamed myself for so long and I finally realized that there are people out there with bad intentions and that I deserve so much more than that. I realized that my perspective was holding me back and that instead of dwelling on what happened to me, I should use my experience to try and help people who are where I once stood. I still haven’t told any of my family about what happened to me because I don’t want them to get mad and try to find this person. But I have helped a handful of people through their assaults as well. The best thing I have been able to do, is simply make them feel safe. It’s hard to do that coming from an outside perspective. But, no matter what they tell you. Try to be understanding, don’t judge them, don’t tell them you don’t believe them. It’s hard for people to talk about being violated and the things other people have done to their body. If someone trusts you enough to tell you their trauma, be their safe place.

Could be a hot topic! Would you take in a sexaully abused children if you had other children?

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