Baby showers

FTM and was never one to do parties or ever get attention. I am shy and never liked to be the spotlight of anything. I have bad social anxiety but defiantly want to have a baby shower for my son. I know any little gift/money will help A LOT.

Should I do small seperate baby showers like one with friends only, another one with my family (and their invites), another one and with husbands family (and their invites) or just do one BIG baby shower where everyone is invited and gets together. If I do one big shower at a hall or winery, it will be more or less around 65 people but that does not mean everyone will show up.

I am just curious on how to do this or what to do.