I left my husband.

3 years together and 2 kids. Sunday we got into an argument and he was being petty af and my mom had surprisingly showed up to our place so that’s when I decided it was time to leave him ( we had other issues ) he didn’t say much when I left that day till Monday i took so the kids could see him.

I picked them up that night since he worked the next day. We’ve had the same issues in our marriage where he’s over protective and not very open but that’s how he was when I first meet him. He’s had a lot events in his life happen to him that led him to the way he is now because he’s very private person but very loving.

I won’t go too much in depth of what the issues are but he’s very overprotective with me and the kids. He’s never met someone whose there for him and caring and my parents are the same way. They’ll do anything for him. But he’s very jealous person. Which I can’t stand. To the point where he won’t even let a friend of my brothers say hello to me because he will fight for what’s his ( his words) I told him that as long as he knows I love him and want him that should be enough.

He’s cheated on me in the past physically and it never happened again but he will talk to girls constantly which I’m ok with unless they start to flirt and then it’s an issue and I’ve caught him a few times.

And that’s sort of the reason I left.

I told him he needs help. Go to counseling for the other issues he’s got. He was diagnosed with bipolar disorder but never seem to look for help. I am planning on filing for divorce and have a consultation on Tuesday.

He says he will seek medical help and go to counseling because he’s embarrassed of his actions and wants to do better for his kids and me. But part of me wants to completely file for divorce because I am done. But then i do want to be with me because one he’s my husband and I love him.

I’ve come to glow to seek advice because I know leaving is best but is there a possibility he will change.

He says he will do anything for his family anything whatever it takes but he’s said that before.

“Once a cheater always a cheater” I don’t wanna hear it’s true because I’ve met people who’ve changed for the better.

Don’t need negative comments so if your gonna say something negative save it.

Thank you if you got this far.

Update***

I mentioned to him the decision I had made and he didn’t like that I would be leaving him alone while he suppose to show me that he can get help so with that being said looks like it didn’t go so well and it saddens me to see that he won’t show me that he can do this on his own and that he needs me for this. And he won’t see the kids which upsets me more.