I’ve never been into bondage or anything bdsm really. I had one guy say he was into bondage and i wasn’t interested. I stopped seeing him because of lack of chemistry in general so we never did any of that.

About as far as I go is choking. One guy slapped me during sex and it was the worst for me but a turn on for him. My current boyfriend choked me once while having sex which I enjoyed but hasn’t done it as much since after finding out my ex used to strangle me. I’ve told him he can and I would tap out if I didn’t like it. He’s very driven by consent knowing what I’ve been through and just having had long term girlfriends in general. He will check to be sure and if I’m not responding enough he stops immediately to make sure I’m okay.

Earlier this week I made a joke both in bed and out of bed about tying me up when we have sex. I was joking but also somewhat interested. I made several comments that he wouldn’t do it. I came over Friday night like I always do to spend the weekend. We were getting undressed and warming up when he made a joke about tying me up. He asked me again if that’s something I wanted. I said a joke about how I didn’t think he would. With that he reached under his bed and had both my wrists roped quickly. He confirmed I was okay with it again. This man went out of his way and made ties to his bed for my hands and feet one night I wasn’t over just because I was interested 😂 I’ve never had a guy even really care what I wanted in bed. But lemme tell you it was actually hot. He took his sweet time getting me fired up and then flipping me over and tying down my feet so he could take control. After we finished he untied me, cleaned up and held me asking if I liked it or not. He said he’d never tried anything like that before and I hadn’t either. He assumed it was something I was into. So it was a new experience for both of us. Sometimes I just can’t get over how sweet and thoughtful this man is. He goes out of his way in every aspect of our lives from bedroom to everything else. I just wanted to share because none of my friends want to hear about me doing the deed I’m sure. It’s not even totally about the sex just the fact he jumped on doing something I mentioned so quickly.