Mother in law vent

I used to think she was a saint a angel even. For years I couldn't understand why her family would roll their eyes around her or say harsh things behind her back. 8 years in and we got married and had her first grandchild and I am completely over her.

I want nothing to do with her. Being around her is exhausting. I am sick of being judged. I am overwhelmed by her rude comments her gestures of disapproval. Her constant pressure and challenges of my parenting.

She won't do it in front of my husband but feels the need to over assert herself when he isn't there. If I bring it up to him I just look like the evil person because although he thinks she is weird he will protect her at any cost. I am warn out from trying so dam hard.

I am at my wits end. Now with a baby she wants to be around all the time and I am a stay at home mom. I am working on boundaries saying no and standing up for myself yet I am now resenting my husband.

Family is the most important thing to me. I bend over backwards for all of our family and always make sure to be a peace keeper and all get along for the sake of relationships. I have no desire to have one with her. The time she spends with our baby drives me crazy. The way she baby talks him, rubs his head, won't give him back to me when he needs to be fed is crying and I say I'll take him.

I don't know what to do. I am building such resentment and anger. This isn't like me and I am worried I will snap and mama bear will come out and I will finally break.