Help ? A bit long

In 2017 I had a bit of dilemma that I posted her in a forum on eve. I since have lost that account but since I was given such amazing advice I would like to ask once again on what should I do!

I really don’t want to make this super long but there is a few important details to understand whenever I explain why am I posting so late at night.


So in 2009 I was a sweet 13 year old girl who had so many family and mental problems, so I took it upon myself to “fix” myself and started to hang around the wrong crowds in Junior high and in High school. Drinking, sneaking out, and getting high were one of my few hobbies. I met a kid who was 15. We hit right off and started dating right away. We took things really quick and by the time I was 14 and he was 16 we were already having unprotected sex. On my birthday in January 3rd, He was now legal and on my birthday he broke up with me because he didn’t want anything to do with me (since he was 18 and I was a minor). But we were still having sex every once in a while. All the unprotected sex caught up to me and I got pregnant in the end of January, and didn’t find out til I was three months pregnant (on May 21, 2012.) I had gotten super sick and was sick for a couple of weeks til my mother decided to get off her ass and take me to the hospital. I found out and my dad basically kicked me out. The only person who wanted me was my aunt, so I packed my bags and last minute I decided to show up to my ex’s house and tell him the good news. Expecting for him to step up, he kicked me out of his home (along with his mother and grandma), they claimed I was just a whore and the baby wasn’t even his. Then It was clear I was moving to Washington with my aunt. She took me in, I did online school. Months go by and my sweet Ava, had been born. A gorgeous 8 pound 3 oz, 17” long on November 13th, 2012. Whenever I turned 17 I finished HS and enrolled in community college in where I met an amazing man. I graduated from CC at the age of 19 in 2015. We moved in together and started our life. I was engaged by 20. Everything was going good, thats when my dumbass decided it was ok to hit up an old friend of mine in 2017 (who is now married to Ava’s father cousin- and also has a daughter my daughters age—yes they are cousins.) So I made my trip down to San Diego, to visit family and friends since they hadn’t seen Ava since she was 2 years old. (She was now 5 years-old) My “best friend” and I met at a Chucky cheese. Everything was going well, but an hour or so into playing around her husband and no other than Ava’s father walked in the place and went straight to us. I freaked out grabbed my stuff and grabbed Ava and headed to my car. Hours go by and my so called best friend called me to inform me that her husband became abusive (something that I already knew and was going to help her with.) whenever he found out that she was going to meet up with me and my daughter. And he wanted to know when, where and why. He found out I kept his niece away from him and he got angry so he made a plan to surprise me and had my friend go along with whatever went on.

Fast forward a couple days later, my Ava’s dad messaged me on fb and asked to see Ava. Thats whenever I came to eve and asked everyone for their opinion. Everyone said I should give him the benefit of the doubt and let him take my daughter out though he lied and told me he was taking her to eat and watch a movie but turns out he took her to a family party so she can see her other side of the family, because “she needs to know who her family truly is.” but he sent his girl cousin to drop her off, earlier than expected. I knew he was an alcoholic so my thought was he drank and didn’t want to bring her himself. Turns out I find out years later that he brought her earlier because he got mad that Ava kept calling him by his name instead of “daddy” how he wanted her to call him and because Ava kept referring to (my then fiance, now husband” as daddy. And that his mom and grandma (who said years back kicked me out because Ava wasn’t his,) took great care of her. I let it go because he never once asked about her again, I had texted him to tell him we were going back to Washington and if he wanted to see her one last time under my supervision. He never replied so I left it as is. So I am now married with a beautiful 8 month old Alissa and my almost 7 year old Ava. We were celebrating fathers day on Sunday at my husbands family’s house and they have big parties and they usually end pretty late. Like always we

got home super late and I had 4 missed calls from a number I recognized. It was Ava’s father, I let it go and didn’t called back considering the time (12 midnight) I went to bed and woke up at 2 to breastfeed Alissa. When I was catching my sleep I heard a text message..

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At around 2:40 this dude decided it was ok to text me about Ava’s summer schedule. And that he wants to file for full custody if I don’t let him see her.Last time I heard about him he was still an alcoholic and that was a year ago. Idk what to do. I don’t want to take legal action just yet. HELP?? he’s basically threating me to take legal action to get full custody if I don’t let him have her this summer.

(EDIT: he’s mad bc I called my husband my Prince Charming, on a fb post. — i don’t have Ava’s dad on fb... Lol forgot to add that he had begged me to go back with him a while back)