Tired of being the wrong kind of “fat”

I’ve posted about this before but in a world where they tell us to not be abashed of being fat I can’t help but feel MORE ashamed. Not only am I the wrong type for not being skinny but now I’m the wrong type because I’m not the ideal fat girl. All these curvy/“fat” women have no back rolls, they don’t have a pudge belly. I spend a lot of time tryna hide all these things about me. Thick band bras to tuck the fat rolls away, high waisted jeans to try n minimize the gut. I just idk, I can’t be the only one

Edit: I used to be 250 pounds so I lost a lot of weight and the pudge doesn’t go away even when I’m really lean and have a clean diet.