How can i get my SO to understand I'm not comfortable with him having strippers at this bachelor party?

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I don't like the idea of it at all and I'm very territorial what's mine is mine. I don't like others girls looking at him even. I told him we won't get married if he does but he doesn't think I'm serious.

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Here's a story for you: my friend's then-fiancé had his bachelor party at a strip club. His friend bought him a lap dance. The stripper straddled his lap and said in a bitchy tone "he might have paid for the lap dance but you still gotta tip me". And did a 3 minute lap dance and then left him after he tipped her.

Just because it's a club full of naked women does NOT mean it's sexy lol. Strippers are doing their jobs and in no way want your man (except of course his money).

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Eh.... I see a lot of girls saying "if you trust him let him go". Which I understand on some circumstances but stuff like this I'd double think about it. My sister's husband ended up going to a strip club after all those lap dances and beer he was intoxicated to the limit that he didn't even know he was getting married and some girls came into the strip club and ended up going to a hotel party after that with him and his friends which they all knew each other and he ended up fucking her and got her pregnant. Which he wasnt aware. Well his friends didnt say no to it. Or pulled him back. My sister married him and a month later he got a call and some breaking news that she is pregnant... My sister still stayed with him and they have two kids yet he pays that one night girl child support and doesnt let him see his kid. Now keep in mind I know few people that this has happened too. On the other hand if he cares about your feelings than he wouldnt go. My fiance told me that he and I would have just a get together party with friends before our wedding. Just so it doesn't cause problems. Now u trust your own gut and do what is the best. Try talking to him about it. But I know if my fiance asked me to go. I would say no and point all the things out that could happen. Good luck.

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I wound  not  do that if you trust  him you have to let  him have  a party if y'all don't have  trust  it's nothing

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I didn't want my husband to go to the strip club for his bachelor party, but I finally decided to trust him and let it go, I just asked that he didn't get a lap dance. So what is the first thing that happens when they get to the strip club? His buddies buy him 2 lap dances. But, he was honest about it with me, and even though I was really pissed, and cried, ect, I decided to let it go. At the end of the day I trust him, and I love him more than anything. We came to an understanding that he would only go to the strip club for bachelor parties, or if I was with him. Is it really worth it to throw away your whole relationship over something so insignificant? It definitely wasn't for me. Sometimes you just have to learn to let things like that go, it sucks, but losing the love of your life over something so trivial would suck more.

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First off men boyfriends fiancé husbands are not property so u can't treat them as such u can't control whether or not women r gonna look at him second if u trust him let him have his bachelors party and enjoy his last night I just don't feel it's right to feel he is ur property n b possessive that's just my opinion tho

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Just tell him you are going to have a male stripper at yours and when (or if) he reacts badly, tell him that's exactly how you feel.

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"I don't like girls looking at him even" dang girl make sure to cover his face when you guys go out!

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He should respect your feelings. In my opinion which I know will not be popular he's been committed to you for some period of time now, what does watching another woman taking off her clothes have to do with marrying you? Nothing. Ask him why he wants to, if you are enough as he says you are why does he want to watch other naked women?  I iight help to show him how you feel or you to understand why he wants it.

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I had a similar issue with my fiance before we got married. I just sat him down, and had a serious talk about what I considered infidelity. We both agreed that neither of us was comfortable with the other having anything to do with strippers at their party. It didn't belong in our marriage. So, he had a guys night in. They played video games and got drunk.

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My SO knows if he disrespects me and goes against what I've asked for, when time comes, I will call off our marriage. We're not engaged yet but we already know we'll be eloping, so tons of money won't be lost. I love him dearly, but we've haf trust issues and him not respecting our relationship in the past. He's figured out it's not worth it to test the waters and has opted for a guys night at home.

How can i get my SO to understand I'm not comfortable with him having strippers at this bachelor party?

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