Help! How do I get my daughter out of my bed?

Question

Hey ladies! I know bed sharing is a very controversial topic here so let me start by saying I have always followed the safe bed sharing guidelines. She’s been in my bed full time since about 6 weeks. 
Anyways, she is almost 14 months and still in my bed. When we started bed sharing it was because she slept better and longer and my movements (getting up to go to the bathroom, etc) never bothered her. However in the last couple of months she wakes up so many times and is so restless and just does not sleep well not to mention she keeps me and my fiancee up with all the squirming. 
I am ready to move her to her own crib, and I have moved it to our room so it’s next to my bed and occasionally if she is in a deep enough sleep I am able to lay her in it once she is asleep but it’s very rare. 
My question is how do I do this? I would really like to not do the cry it out method as I do not think I can handle that. It breaks my heart to hear her cry especially when I know I can fix it. Is cry it out the only way? Are there other methods? 
Help this exhausted mama and baby girl out!

Picture of me and my sweet girl.

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Any sort of sleep training or method is going to involve some sort of crying even the gentle methods like shuffle. Research them and pick one to try. Key is being consistent. We did cry it out and within 3 days child was sleeping on their own without needing to be rocked to sleep which was our issue. Believe it was the best thing we could have done.

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We did fading with our son and it worked well but it was in his own room, he was about 13 months at the time. Also he always started in his crib from 6 months but would end up in with us when he woke up through the night. So not the exact same so might not work. But basically you put them in their crib and sit beside the crib. Very little interaction but they still know your there. Every couple nights you move a little further away from the crib until eventually your out of the room. If they wake up, you go back to the same spot. Our son never cried, he was content as long as he could see one of us. After a week we were able to put him in his crib, say goodnight and walk out. He stopped waking during the night (or atleast put himself back to sleep) and has been a great sleeper since. It might not work the same since the crib is in your room but might be worth a try :) good luck

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I think it’ll take a few hard nights. My son has been in his own crib since the beginning but when we travel or he is sick I hold his hand in his crib or rub his back to fall asleep. Initially I just kept putting him back, he’d cry, I’d soothe him but always put him back down in his crib after, never my bed. My advice may be useless because it’s a different situation but sticking to the same thing and not breaking it by bringing her back into your bed would be key I think.

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This was literally me a week ago!! I always slept with my son, because I didn’t want to have to get up at night. I liked him being right there, it made sense bc I was getting more sleep too. He slept better. But about a month ago, he started to squirm a lot, wake up more...and it started to not make sense for him to be in my bed, because I wasn’t getting any more sleep. I hated the idea of him crying. He literally was rocked to sleep from day 1!! But, I decided I was going to do it. I did a trial run during nap time. He cried for maybe 5-10 minutes. Not screaming, but not happy. And he went to sleep. Even slept THROUGH THE NIGHT that night. 
Give it a try. Hearing them cry is so sad. But, so nice to have my bed back too! I do miss him sometimes, but ultimately, we both sleep better again. 
Good luck to you!

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Have you thought about putting a mattress or foam mattress topper on her bedroom flops and sleeping there with her for a few days, then a few days of her in her bed and you on the floor, then try leaving her in the room alone if that makes any sense lol

Help! How do I get my daughter out of my bed?

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