Advice

Hi all

My now ex and I were together for 7 1/2 years (married for 3) and our relationship is now over. We were young (19&20) when we got together so it wasn’t overly serious to begin with but once we were married etc of course we got the usual ‘when will you have kids’ from everyone. I was still young and knew I would want kids but for me it was ‘not right now but someday’ my husband changed to never. I thought I was ok with this but ultimately wasn’t which became apparent to me when I realised I had three small dogs in three years! I wanted to care for something more than us.

Anyway, I am now in a new relationship, I’m older and we both really want children’s with each other. But we are both still married as neither of us have grounds to divorce our partners and it’s under 2 years therefore we are financially linked to our other half’s. I own a house with my ex which I currently live in.

I suppose I want to know if you all think waiting is more sensible than being happy, there is a chance I might be homeless if I don’t get the sale I needed as my new partner cannot join the mortgage due to his wife then having a claim. You cannot file for financial separation until a divorce has commenced. Help. I am desperate to be happy and hopefully have the family I have dreamt of with my partner 💕 (of course we might have issues but won’t know until we try!!) 😭