Kind of resent my Mother and Ungrateful sister. Long post.

Resent probably isn't the right word, because most the time it's just quick flashes of it. It's not a constant thing, but I don't know what other word to use because it certainly feels like resentment.

My sister was 16 when she had her first child (2008), and my Mother bent over backwards to do EVERYTHING for her. She had no goals, no motivation, and expected everyone else to do everything for her. Which my Mother fell for. Her first child was taken away from her (due to a misunderstanding but that's another story for another time) when she was 18-19. She had her second child shortly after she turned 20 (2012). Her and her husband (not dad to either child) were both stay at home parents, and still she got all the help in the world. Not once did she show any sort of appreciation for the help. In fact if there was ever a day where someone couldn't help, she would try guilt tripping, bribery or blackmail to get someone to help.

I had my first child when I was 21 (2015), already living with my partner, both of us working. We decided that because of the cost of childcare, and that my job was only part time we would be better off if I was a SAHM. Since then, my partner has changed jobs (better hours/better pay), started to drive, we've moved closer to family, and had another child. Now I'm looking at going back to work when my first starts school in September. My second will be 6 months old. I mentioned this to my Mother on the phone the other day, along with our plans to get married, and instead of getting any sort of support, she asked me if there was any point because I probably wouldn't be able to afford the childcare (I have no formal qualifications and have been out of work for 4 years). We spoke a bit longer about trivial things, and before she hung she did tell me good luck, but she basically dismissed me when I first mentioned it. I think I just need to vent and I can't collect my thoughts well enough to explain it properly but I'm done. I actually want to do something with my life. My sister is fine being on benefits and getting pissed every weekend and yet she's the one that gets all the help?? Great. Thanks for that.