What are you doing to not obsess?

Question

Iv had 2 FET , this is my third. I had thought  that since iv been there done that, i will not obsess over every little thing on this one. However, I feel like iv gotten worse. After having 1 BFN and 1 BFP, i feel like i know too much now and am reading into every small thing. And the transfer hasn't even happened yet! What do you girls do to keep sane?

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Everyone is different and what works for me might not work for you but this is how I get past all the worries. 
1. With each transfer, the odds of it working go up, esp true when dealing with non pgs tested embryos. I think by the 4th it’s something like 75% success rate at my clinic.
2. The worst has already happened (miscarriage) and if it was to happen again, I know I would be ok and I know how the process/timeline works now. (Unless it was to happen later)
3. You’ve probably heard me say this before, but on a weekly basis I see the most unhealthy women have their 3rd, 4th, 5th babies with ease. I’m talking Meth addicts, morbidly obese food addicts that wouldn’t have the first idea about nutrition, countless people who didn’t even know they were pregnant and drank/smoked up until 12 weeks and never took pre natals etc etc etc, which tells me, at the end of the day it’s all about embryo quality.  
3. I can’t quite remember how many embryos you have but in nutshell it’s like all the pregnancy’s we will ever had a laid out for us already. Eg I have 9 embryos. Very rarely would you every see someone have 9 children back to back and never have a miscarriage. 
4. I’ll be working the day of transfer and all he says after. People don’t have sex and then lie about the house for two weeks. Just normal life as usual this time for me! 
Hope this helps- we have this in the bag this time!! I know it xx

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Therapy. 
For real.

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I have been deep cleaning and re organizing everything at home that keeps me busy and helps be be ready for when the baby comes

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I hear ya.  Some times ignorance is bliss. It’s hard to keep positive all the time when you can’t stop thinking about all that can go wrong.

What are you doing to not obsess?

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