Is it okay to tell everyone you lost your baby and make them think it was a miscarriage when you had an abortion?

Jeesh girl lmfao. I'll just keep repeating my self. Since you're such a simpleton. Either way it's a loss. How one chooses to cope, is not my business or concern, or anyone else's. You don't get to dictate how someone else's handles their shit. Lie or not it doesn't have any barring on you

this girl asked us a question, what do we think about this scenario, we are both gonna tell our personal feelings its the actual question, what do you feel about this? you feel that i have no right to feel anything at all about it while you can feel that she is right to do it. i feel like she is wrong for doing what she did. lol personal feelings all around

lol you are literally inserting your personal feelings, you are saying that YOU feel that one is not worse than the other, that YOU feel like it is ok to lie cheat steal do whatever you gotta do to sleep at night that YOU feel like the rest of us that understand it is not ok to lie about serious stuff are wrong for expecting that when someone confides in you about something awful in their life you assume they are telling the truth bc no one would ever lie about something like that.

i am not deciding if she feels worse than someone who miscarried or not i am deciding that it is absolutely disgusting to lie about a tragedy of any kind, i do see the hate but i also know that she could have not told anyone she was pregnant from day 1 if she wasnt sure and if she changed her mind for some reason that doesnt give her the right to steal someone elses story. part of life is taking responsibility for your actions and if she made mistakes, including telling the whole world, she has to live with that and grow from it she may have been able to change 1 persons mind about abortion by sharing her story and letting the people that care about her cry with her for the real reason they should, not pretend some other horrible thing happened to her and except pity and empathy under false pretense. like i said above you are excusing something that is awful bc you are defending the right to abortion, this is not an attack on abortion this is about lying about a tragedy, if you foind out your coworker had been lying about having a horrible illness or a death in her family you would be like wtf who lies about something like that?? this is not anti abortion this is anti a terrible lie

*losses*

You must not see all the hatred women get that wear their abortions proudly. Both are very hard loses, you don’t get to say who gets to feel worse and if she is emotional over her abortion and doesn’t want people calling her a “murderer” and such and wants to be left alone to grieve, it’s much easier to call it something else 🤷🏻‍♀️

100% agree!!!!

its absolutely disgusting i am in complete shock that so many people think this isnt a big deal. its so gross

If you have an abortion and you actually wanted to keep that child but couldn’t because it would die or you would die then I feel like it is okay to say you had a miscarriage. If you chose to abort because you didn’t want it then just fucking say that or don’t tell anyone you’re pregnant to begin with and you wouldn’t have to lie 🤷🏻‍♀️

And as I said choice or not, your opinion doesn't mean shit. You don't get to dictate how someone handles their abortion. Simple as that.

You're allowed to have your opinion on the matter 🤷‍♀️

precisely, not sure why some people are having such difficulting understanding

For sure. Not everyone who aborts is a cold heartless monster- it's actually a very selfless decision if you know you just cannot have a child. And it's also traumatic, just in a different way to a miscarriage. Dealing with a miscarriage isn't fun and although both are sad you can't compare the two.

exactly. no one needs to know but if she told everyone she was pregnant and now she feels some people need to know that shes not she should just tell them she had to abort and appreciates their understanding in her time of grief or that shes not open to talking about it. no reason to lie

it is so disgraceful

I've had both and lost my child d/t heart condition and I dont feel disrespected by her actions. People have different reasons, medical and mental to why an abortion was had. I personally dont feel it's your place to say how she chooses to explain her loss. I'm sure you've "lied" about something that other would disagree with why you chose to do so.... Even if she is seeking sympathy she has that right, contrary to your opinion. No shade, just my opinion as like yours.

Ho

oh, is that what that is?

if she just said she “didn’t want to talk about it” people would definitely pressure her and/or talk behind her back and potentially make up rumors/gossip about her. i’m sure she didn’t take pleasure in “pretending” to have a miscarriage. i get that that’s a traumatic experience but i think the only women who have a problem with her “lying” about this is women who are taking it way too personally

she def doesnt have to tell anyone anything but it also is not ok to pretend you had a miscarriage when you havent. she should just say she doesnt want to talk about it. i think the problem is that she said the girl told everyone she was pregnant and you kind of do make it everyone business when you tell them that of course theyre gonna ask how the pregnancy is going but she should have just said im no longer pregnant and im not ok to talk about it. not lie and say she miscarried, thats the lart that people have a problem with