Need to vent

Ok so I need to get this off my chest. Why is it that when you live with a roommate vs live with your partner it’s like the standard house rules change? Like when you live with a roommate, obviously you don’t expect them to pickup after you, share the chores for cleaning shared areas, if you make a mess you’d clean it up the same day, because that’s respectful when you’re sharing a home. Some people are messier /don’t have the same cleaning standards, and that’s a different thing.

But my fiancé and I have been living together for 6 months now - a little over. He lived with a roommate before and their house was always presentable. Still looked like guys lived there but things were relatively organized and they’d each take a few hours on the weekend to straighten up. So why is it now that he lives with me IM expected to clean the entire house, wash all the dishes, AND do all the laundry and ironing???

Also, we didn’t move into a one bedroom apartment where it’s normal for one person to be able to clean it. We have a giant 4 bedroom house, and honestly I can’t keep up with it without him pitching in bc as soon as I clean it either him or the dogs will mess it up again.

If I notice he washed some dishes or cleaned something, I’ll thank him. He’ll say “you’re welcome” as if he’s doing me a favor, instead of this being our shared responsibility.

Honestly, I love this man but I’m fed up with him where he thinks it’s ok that he doesn’t clean anymore. He’ll go to the gym, go out with friends, play video games even when the house is a mess. Then at 9pm he’ll ask if I can do laundry for him bc he forgot to put his clothes in the hamper and he didn’t have anymore clean clothes. If I don’t have the house completely clean all the time (let’s not forget I work full time too, I cook all our food and wash the dishes and also like to workout and stay in shape, and also have a life) he’ll slowly get more and more irritated, but still doesn’t think he should maybe contribute to maintaining a clean house.

Trust me, I’ve talked to him. The funniest/most annoying hint is that he thinks he does help out. He thinks washing half the dishes in the sink is enough now —when all the dishes are his lol. How does the roommate mentality change so much in 6 months??