We've been married for almost 3 years. I moved to the US from Europe to be with my now husband and we've been living here for over 4 years, approx. 40 mins from his parents.

I've struggled a lot relocating to the US - navigating cultural differences, social norms and expectations of my husband and his family. I haven't made many friends and my family all live in Europe (I see them maybe 2-3 times a year).

When I first moved here, I made it clear that it was for the purpose of us being together in order to establish our relationship, and never thought that we'd be here forever. I never insisted that we'd have to move back to my home country necessarily, but I guess I thought that there'd be a phase of life that he might be willing to make a move somewhere where I might actually take the lead, rather than him.

He feels strongly that we need to stay in the area we currently live for the career opportunities and the opportunity to make a lot of money (he's very career-oriented). I also work full-time but climbing the corporate ladder is less important to me. This area is expensive, elitist and just not somewhere I'd want to stay forever. He maintains that unless we move to my home country, he does't think I'll truly be happy and therefore is unwilling to budge. I definitely miss home and my family, but what bothers me more is the fact that he can't see that I've made huge sacrifices to be here and sometimes feel like he wants to drive major life decisions.

In addition, while we maybe only see his family once a month, I worry about their influence on our lives. What the parents would consider 'tight-knit', I would consider domineering. (especially FIL) They kind-of expect us to bend to their every whim and I don't think my husband is capable of saying no to them. They expect us to be present at essentially all occasions that are important to them (guilt trip employed when they don't get what they want), and I'm just not interested in signing the next however many years of my life to pandering to their wants/desires. We can't even go for dinner there on a Sunday and specify a time we want to leave by, as we're always operating on their time.

Super stressed and looking for any advice.