Just don’t know

In this relationship for nearly 4 years and two kids together and I have 3 from previous relationship.

A situation occurred where he works as a carer a woman apparently tried to kiss him at work he pushed her away he said. She kept messaging him he blocked her number

According to him she would then say at work your not replying have you blocked me so he would unblock her number

He said he was blunt in messages back

This came out because her bloke and her had an argument apparently and she said they kissed 5 times which my partner said didn’t even kiss once

I bump into her on school run all the time my anger is getting worse

This was a year ago: now when I mention it to partner he gets mega angry kicks off screaming at me saying he done fuck all wrong he’s innocent and I’m mentally torturing him by going on

I sit home when he’s at work, I am crying all the time. She doesn’t work with him anymore apparently not allowed as all came out. But she has started working there again - she left for bit

Now tonight we been arguing again about it but he said I’m pushing his buttons and people will get hurt he said he will hurt my kids dad as that’l affect me as will affect my kids and he won’t hurt me so hurt him and hurt me emotionally as kids

He said he will end up snapping and smashing the house up and Itl all be my fault for keeping on and not letting it go

Bit that makes me so mad also is she told my partner her bloke hit her

My partner messaged her back saying he’s a cunt for doing that and hopes she’s ok

I’m a mess

Edit: so tonight as me and her have a mutual friend I see she posted shit on fb and then the so called people who my partner works with all liked it so tbh I don’t trust anything they say either as one was like she’s a slag she tried splitting me and my bloke up etc blah blah well why would you like someone or their posts if that’s the case