Have you ever been in a sexual situation that you do not want to call rape, but that you als didnt consumer consensual ?

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I read an article that said many women will not call an event rape, even if they say the event was non consensual. This resonates with me personally and I wanted to see if anyone else related.

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Rape is rape. Regretting sex with someone is not.

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My ex. I was 17 and he was 18. It was my first time and I said no up until he put it in then I just laid there.. but I never put up a fight so I just figured I was nervous. Looking back at it now I realized that was rape and so was very other time in our relationship. I was young and didn’t think it would be considered rape since we were in a relationship

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My abusive ex used to coerce me. Technically rape, but doesn't play out like the stereotypical rape. He wanted sex, and would keep flicking lights on, pulling blankets off me, turning the heat way up during a hot summer night, pour water on me, threatened physical abuse (that was routinely used during actual arguments), threatened to post nudes, etc in an effort to keep me awake until I gave in and let him use me for sex. It was awful. And then he'd use these incidents to shame me, like "you're such a whore you still took this dick even after I (insert abusive act here)" or "you must not hate me so much/I can't be abusive because you still took this dick like a champ" or some fucked up shit like that. Tried to leave so many times, and he would ruin my life and humiliate me until I placated him. Finally got a protective order and was able to leave without my life getting destroyed. 
Anyway 🙊

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Yes, ugh with my ex, we were having a fling but at that time, I was a virgin and that day, I told him I do not want to lose it to him at all yet he puts his stupid thing in me. I was shocked and I dk but I just thought maybe it was a heat moment but I looked back, nope, it was a rape on his part but whatever.

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Yes I have a few times, even my husband has been in that position. Some people hear NO and think it means the person can be convinced.

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It’s not rape but I’ve been in a situation where I felt obligated and had sex to avoid awkwardness and confrontation.

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My ex, (I was 15 and he was 17 or 18. I cannot remember) would always ask me to have sex. I repeatedly told him no (was a virgin) until one day, I got so tired of hearing him bring it up, I gave in just to shut him up. I definitely regret it.

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i had been talking to someone for a long time, hung out with them and their friends & got drunk, slept over at his place and we had sex. he probably shouldn’t have had sex with me because i was absolutely trashed but i would’ve had sex with him anyways if i wasn’t. that’s the only situation i’ve been in like that

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Yes. Many times I have said no multiple times and they still continued, at the time I didn’t think it was rape but now that I’m older I think back on it and def think it wasn’t okay.

Have you ever been in a sexual situation that you do not want to call rape, but that you als didnt consumer consensual ?

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