Recently my husband and I, have been seeing a marriage counselor..

And a few things have happened to make this question.

In our first meeting she asked my husband if he was a narcissist.. Because I explained to her that my husband just thinks he's the best thing that's ever been created.. mostly basing this off of how he thinks his work is superior to other peoples work..like at his actual job (he's in the military) and in his hobbies..working on classic cars and building things (welding, wood work, ect.) He thinks his looks are subpar.. I agree. Lol.

Anyways.. fast forward a bit and we are in another meeting with her.. and I mentioned to her how my husband had used something I said to ruffle his sister's feelings just because he likes doing that kind of stuff.. idk why, that's her job to figure out and give us ways to correct future issues (at least that's what I think) so I gave her a few examples of how he likes to do this stuff:

- he sat around and got all over his sister's ass because she wasn't working.. she and her son, had just moved back to NC from TX because her husband went on a deployment.. so she decided to move back here and spend that time with her parents until her husband comes back home.. and she had been here for probably a few days when he decided to be a "funny" guy and poke the bear.. so I told him to stop because she was clearly agitated with my husband.. he stops, then at dinner, he started up again.. and she got mad (understandably) and I told him to shut up (in a nicer way) and to apologise.. a few minutes of silence goes by and he apologized to her.

- he had been scrolling through his phone said something about a Masters degree from Ashford University and I told him to not to do that because they are a for profit scam.. later that evening we went to dinner with his parents and his sister.. and he tells her that her degree is trash.. 🤦 and she's like "until you have a master's you don't have much room to talk" and "if you haven't got anything nice to say then don't say anything to me" ...I was just glad he didn't drag me into the argument.

So, I tell the counselor this.. and she says "if she got the job then where she went to college doesn't matter" and I mean I agree, you can't really make fun of someone for furthering their education.. however, I also didn't say anything about my SIL getting a job.. so it made me think more about our meeting afterwards.. especially because she said for us to make an appointment in a few weeks.. when we have been seeing her weekly. 😑 So I was like.. oh shit... I think we broke our counselor.. and anyways, I find out that one of the top 3 programs Ashford University offers their students is psychology.. and I called my husband and told him I think we hurt our therapists feelings.

Fast forward again and we are celebrating my dad's birthday with my family and I had filled my sister in on how my husband and I were seeing a marriage counselor.. and then I was like well.. we were, I think she low key, broke up with us.. and told her what had happened.. and my sister was like no it absolutely does matter where a person gets their degree from and the way she had responded with a personal opinion makes it seem like she's not a very experienced therapist because she should have just asked your husband why he feels the need to (for a lack of better words) ruffle someone's feathers.. instead of her talking about how where a person goes to college doesn't matter.. And then my sister jokingly, offered to be our new marriage counselor.

So, now I'm really starting to wonder does where a person chooses to go to college for their degree actually matter? Would you be more likely to trust information from a person who attended a brick and mortar college than a person with a degree from an online college?

Does it make a difference what online college they went to when forming an opinion on their ability to do a job well?

Does it make a difference what college a person physically attended and their ability to do a job well?

And just for the record, I like our therapist, I think she at least gets into our (my husband and I) heads to want to do better for one another and to be nicer to each other.. so, irregardless of where she graduated from, I think she's done a good job so far with us... However, I think if we actually had to pay her out of our pocket.. that we wouldn't continue to see her because on a professional scale I don't think she's exactly the best as I've been to counseling before and it went a lot differently than how our current counseling has gone.. but then again, that was for my own personal issues and not issues I'm having with my partner.. so it might be different because of that.