Long post. I’m sorry, I just need to get this off my chest.

I have been dating my bf for a few years now. We have a daughter together and he’s great. (We don’t believe in marriage but that a whole different story) Thing is.. I cannot stand my MIL.

She raised him to always take care of her. She preaches about prioritizing the family (wife and kids), but she wants to be taken care of as well. We use to help her every now and then at the beginning. She always promised to pay us back but never did. (I never asked for the money back) I use to feel bad because she had a rough life. She got pregnant at 15 and had to work ever since. Thank God she was able to get through. Her sons are now 28, 26, and 25.

Yet, she raised ALL of them to always take care of her financially. She makes this pouty face and uses certain words to convince them they need to help, but I’m so over it. I wondered where her money would go since she was always in need of it, but then I found out she had 10 dogs and cats. She kept taking in more and on top of that she would go shopping and misuse her money. It lead to her asking for money behind my back and I had enough. I put my foot down and I told my bf that we couldn’t be giving her anymore. I was working full time, going to school, and we were paying for day care. Like, no. We just can’t. He ended up telling me ‘I can’t do that to my mom’ so I left. I literally got my stuff and my daughters and left him.

I was so hurt and disappointed in him because we worked hard to provide for our daughter and this 40 year old woman is wanting to live off of us. For weeks he begged to talk things out and I wasn’t giving in. He cried for months until I gave in to work things out. It took us about 6 months to talk and agree on new boundaries. He realized he needed to stop giving into his mom, but not before she stole $500 from us and kept lying about it.

I was shocked and furious. I put an even bigger distance and stopped all sorts of communication with her. I couldn’t even look at her, but it’s hard because my bf says ‘It’s my mom and I will always forgive whatever she does.’

I on the other hand do not put up with people like that. Let alone someone that is suppose to be a role model and set up good examples. This happened about 2 years ago and it gets harder every time because my bf wants me to be her BFF and pretend like nothing happened. Is it bad that I still have a distance? I don’t even want her in my house. I really don’t want to be near her or talk to her. Nothing.