So I left my abusive husband of almost 19yrs 15 married .When I left I had to sneak away , to be out safely.Throughout the marriage I was called bitches,whores etc I sufferd black eyes fractures ,guns drawn.I reached a breaking point and got out. Now he wants me back, he says I didnt give him closure that we went through things all couples go through he blames it in being young when we got together.O told him often I was afraid of him , He says, its not like he beat me daily! And hes not a monster.... I was the sole bread winner he did minimal , he says its because im the one with the degree and better payin job! Our children are grown ,ive moved on im dating he says I never gave him a second chance but i feel like, every apology for the fightz and injuries were 2nd chances , i try to stay cordial because we still have to co parent but he feels like I owe him more , because i nvr allowed him to right his wrongs nor did i lead him to believe there was a problem ,hell outta feae i wore a fake smile i hid the abuse from everyone ,on the outside we looked like the perfect couple. I suffered in silence for yrs now..im happy,pregnant and I finally feel free.I still limit the places i go outof fear he will see me.. he doesnt get it , its been almost 2 yrs and he still wont move on ,exactly why i still stay away because by now if he hasnt moved on he will still harm me he has a temper and will get violent ,restraining orders akre a joke...ijust dont get why he still thinks i owe him closure..wtf