So I'm Laotian and in my family, my grandma or aunts on my moms side have chosen mine and all of my siblings middle names to be more culturally traditional names. I thought it'd be cool to keep the tradition going but my fiance really wants our baby to have a more... American middle name and it's really bothering me. We can't talk about it without getting heated but baby is due 3 months from tomorrow so I kind of feel like we should probably pick a name.

My thing is, we choose the first name together. He automatically gets the last name. I'm not saying I want to choose a middle name without his permission/agreement but am I wrong for wanting the baby to have a little piece of me?? If it's a boy, he wants to choose a middle name that doesn't even have any history behind it, just likes the sound of it with the first name we have picked. And if it's a girl, he wants the middle name to go after his mom because she has passed. I really get it but I feel like I will only give in to please him but I'll resent him for it because I don't agree with it.

Kind of just looking for some advice on how to handle the situation.