It hurts my heart because I've been there, I got out. Now I advocate for victims. Any women (or man) asking what to do in controlling relationships.

Run! This level of control is the beginning of an abusive relationship. It starts with amazing love, the best relationship you've ever had, and always being together. Then comes controlling behavior, then the isolation from friends and family S/HE feels are "bad influences." Then it escalates to varying degrees...emotional manipulation, verbal abuse, physical abuse, in the most serious cases...death of the victim. No matter the level of your abuse it is ALL UNACCEPTABLE!

This is the Abuse Trajectory.

If any woman (or man) is in a relationship where their significant other controls; what they wear, their employment status, who they speak to or befriend, etc. that is the start of abuse. It takes on average 7 attempt before a victim leaves an abuser.

Know the signs before it becomes dangerous. Protect yourself! Get out!