Oral sex? Scared 😳

Question

My bf really wants me to give him a blowjob but every time I try I would get really scared and say that I couldn't do it. We've been together for 9 months and I've never given one in my life. He's 24, I'm 18 and he was my first. He told me it was strange that I haven't given one yet since other girls he's dated gave it early on and said its strange since we've done the two other ways as well. Is there any way to get over this fear of giving a blowjob? I really want to be able to pleasure him in ways other than sex but there's something about it that makes me lock up and shutdown right before I go down. Any help is much appreciated, thanks 😊

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I was nervous the first time too, but trust me it's sooooo much fun. I don't understand the females who don't enjoy giving head. I get pleasure from pleasing him. It's not as hard or scary as it seems. Go at your own pace. The more comfortable you get is th it, the more fun it will be and the better at it you will get. 😀

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I was totally opposite... maybe I'm just a sex freak or something, I couldn't wait to give a blow job. 😈😈 But I was super nervous that I would do it wrong. He was my first... but he'd been married previously, so I was always scared I wouldn't measure up. Now I know that I exceed his ex in th sex department... so that boosts my self esteem 😆😆 I've learned that being honest with your partner about what you like or don't like makes "performing" so much easier. And also, thr teacher in me coming out... if ou don't feel comfortable with something,  don't do it. No matter how much you feel you love this person... never feel like you have to do something that you don't wsnt to do. Have fun!

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I know when I was told about it at first I said I'd never do it and if they tried to make me I'd bite it lol. With my ex he kinda guilt-tripped me into giving him one (he was my first) but I was still hesitant and didn't enjoy it. When my hubby and I started dating I told him up front I didn't like giving them and he said he was fine with that but he'd still pleasure me because he enjoyed doing it and he knew I would too (He's SO much better than my ex!! Lol 😄😏) but to also understand he wasn't trying to make me feel guilty. Needless to say I no longer have a problem giving him head.
When first starting out I made him go shower and wash it really good before even going near it!! (I still won't do it unless it's freshly cleaned.) after that if him watching makes you nervous have him lay down with his eyes closed until you get started and feel a little more confident. If this is weird sorry but watch some porn and watch how they give blowjobs to give you some ideas but at the same time don't try to deep throat it on the first try. My hubby likes it when I use my hands with my tongue so you could try that too. If you're still really uneasy/nervous just start with a hand job and see where that goes.
Hope this helps!! Good luck!!

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It's okay if don't want to give head, he will get over it. You shouldn't be forced to do something your uncomfortable doing. My husband never gets a bj and he's okay with it. He knew when we first got together I did not like giving bjs and he's always accepted that.

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If you don't feel comfortable doing in then you don't have to. He sounds like he's pushing you and that's not cool. If you aren't ready (or even if you never are!!) he can get over it :) but it is easy and even if you suck at it (no pun intended) at first it will get better :)

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I was so flipping nervous the first time it's like I was scared of it !!! I wanted to do it but was scared I didn't know how haha... He kept asking and asking and I flat out told him honestly I don't know how so don't make fun if me pls lol and he said how would tell me if I hurt him or did good or how to do it .. he was nice about it lol and once I did it it wasn't bad at all I got better over time lol

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I would suggest not worrying how you will be seen. It's hard when you feel you're being watched, but guys get pretty into it and have no shame...so you shouldn't either. Don't feel like you have to deep throat or go crazy, and ask questions of him if you feel confused. You'll be surprised how easy it is, and how sometimes it's nice to replace sex with a quick bj.

Oral sex? Scared 😳

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