What was your first time like and did it hurt really bad?

Question

I’ve tried losing my v card to two guys before in the past and it feels like a big fail. I’m tooo tight and it’s uncomfortable. I can’t open my legs too wide it feels uncomfortable, I just close them or keep it abit open. 
I can finger myself but I can’t get off like that and when guys finger me it feels uncomfortable. 
I just feel that il never lose it 😔

Answer

You can’t just put things in there with no moisture. Lube lube lube. I cannot stress this enough. Even if you are naturally wet, a penis is so porous that it sucks it right up and is like you never were even wet and it won’t go in or starts to hurt. As far as fingering, same thing. Don’t hesitate to use lube. Direct him. You know what feels well so show him. If you’re trying to lose your virginity, I’d imagine they haven’t had too much experience and even if they have, they haven’t with YOU. Don’t be afraid to speak up and say “try this” “do this” “I like it when you...”. First few times are not exactly movie scenarios because you yourself are trying to learn your body in that state. Don’t over think. Lube, condoms, be direct with what feels good and what doesn’t.

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Well just out of curiosity do you feel sexually attracted to men? It sounds like you’re not comfortable with them and maybe you need to think about what you’re sexually attracted to and then try again. Sex the first time isn’t the best feeling in the world bc well, you’re putting something in there after going your whole life never putting something in there expect maybe fingers or a tampon. But it’s not supposed to hurt you to the point of not being able to do it. If you thinks it’s that much of a concern, go to the doctors.

What was your first time like and did it hurt really bad?

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