so me and my bf are long distance and get to see each other like once every two to three weeks. just recently we had a falling out on july 31st and took a break for a couple of days. I was crying, I was sobbing, and my mom witnessed it all. now she doesnt like him so much.

well, now we have talked it all out like the adults we are (both 19) and want to see each other to talk about it more and just spend time together, as we figured that was one of the main reasons we had a falling out. my mom finally agreed to let him come visit next tuesday but I have this pit in my stomach thinking about it because my mom has no filter. i’ve asked her to not say anything to him about it, as we are both adults and it’s between us, and she keeps saying “you can’t tell me what to do. I don’t want to see him”. and, quite honestly, it makes me angry and stressed me out. I don’t need her getting into this. i’ve tried telling her but I just know she’s probably going to say something and me and my boyfriend don’t need that right now.

I appreciate her letting him come visit and I know it’s just because she cares for me, but me and my boyfriend are both adults and this was literally our first falling out EVER and that’s normal with relationships. we talked it out. we know how to fix the problem. and my mom interjecting I feel like going to make things uncomfortable and less easy. what do I do?! am I stupid for thinking this way? is there a better way I can communicate this to her? we with be back at college soon which is good so I don’t have to worry about her. I often feel she is too overprotective and needs to let me live and learn by myself.