I am just at a point, where I just don’t know anymore! This might be a part rant out of despair and, also, a real question. Please, please, please bear with me, it is worth it! So, my story starts in RI about a year and a half ago (I’ll try to make this as short as possible!). I got married January 2018. I got my nexplanon out and started going to my obgyn to get help figuring out how to get pregnant (not as easy as it sounds in sex Ed and much more confusing!). So she really only did one test (an hsg which they have since “lost”) and after a year of no other testing, no other pre conception counseling was told, “Oh, well, you must have unexplained infertility! <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> is your next step!” So, I find a cheaper clinic, but still $1,000s of dollars, without even having all of the testing done to see if there really is an easy explanation (hormonal, underlining endometriosis, etc, etc, etc). Something that could be treated or figured out without spending $1,000s for an unnecessary procedure (or maybe we didn’t even time things right or whatever!) So, I started working with an <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> clinic and started trying to get the supposed to be common testing done with my new obgyn. I was able to get bloodwork done at the <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> clinic which I paid $350 out of pocket for, I tried to get the rest of the testing done (hsg and shg) that needed to be done. So, (mind you this has to be done by CD10, at the very latest!) I have been trying for the last 3 days to get these tests done so we can finally find some answers and the first day, I call the office trying to explain and I get told by the not so friendly secretary, “Well, we don’t do that here. What is it a blood test? You’ll need to find who to go to for it yourself.” I asked how do I find out who does it (because I mean this is a common procedure for an obgyn and shouldn’t THEY know. I mean, I don’t even work in an obgyn’s office, THEY do!- Mind you, I didn’t actually say gar. I was trying to be polite!) She replies, “Google it!” 🙄😤 So, I ask, “is there a nurse or someone I could talk to?” She says, “Well, I guess I could give them a note, but we’ll see when they can get back to you. It might be a few days!” (Ok, again, this HAS to be done WEDNESDAY at the LATEST! It is now MONDAY!) So, I ask, “So, my doctor isn’t in today?” They say, Well, I didn’t say that!” So, ok, (*breath*) I try to remain calm and ask sweet as I can muster, “Will my doctor be in tomorrow?” Skip to the next day, I plan on marching myself down there and advocating for myself to actually be able to talk to someone who will even give me the time of day! I do march down there at 12 pm (right after dropping off my husband at work) also, stopping by radiology (because, yes, I did “google it”) and asking where I would go for this test and was told Brockton Hospital (so I keep that in the back of my mind just in case I need it later). Anyways, I get up to the office and sit down with a receptionist, who again, won’t give me the time of day and am told, again, “I’ll give them a note and we’ll see if they can get back to you in time!” So, of course, I chickened out and back down, leave and go 30 minutes, apparently, out of my way, to Brockton Hospital, to radiology, where I’m told (this person, actually, did listen, was horrified that I was treated like that, but said...) “You should go back to the office and tell them that this is urgent and time sensitive and that I will not leave until I can talk to someone!” So, that’s what I did, but, of course, I tried to say it a little nicer and was very nervous saying it, so not as firm, but I did, and after, being made to feel I was a major inconvenience on their day (like, I wanted to be doing this in my free time, go through this painful procedure, and feel like a complete loser having to explain every personal detail to every single person I encounter down to the tiniest detail, because, apparently, no one there in the obgyn office knows anything about the obgyn procedures, tests, or anything else they really should know!), but, finally, after an hour and another 1/2 hr. Back out of my way, finally, talk to someone who, finally, seemed to get it! They were nicer and did schedule the tests to be done this morning. Ok, skip, to this morning, THE LAST DAY THIS CAN GET DONE, I go for the appointment for the test which should have been done in radiology, I’m told your in the wrong department, you need to go to Woman’s Imagining. Ok, so far, could still be ok. Get to that department and I’m told, “Oh, your hsg and shg was cancelled by your obgyn’s office LAST NIGHT. You are now scheduled for an internal ultrasound (I’ve already had this test done twice. Once just a few days ago!) because, apparently, they believe the internal ultrasound will show the same results as an hsg and shg! Ummmm, no, it won’t! That is why they have 3 DIFFERENT tests! If you could get all the same results from one test they wouldn’t have 3 separate tests! 🙄😤🤬 If I can learn this all from just googling it and they haven’t learned it in multiple years of college, why am I not the doctor? I was, literally, at the point where I was going to just look up the procedure on YouTube and do it to myself if I had to! (Which, I did see if this was possible, out of curiosity, and guess what, there are literally tons of videos on how to do it and what results you would get from it! Hhhhhh! So, f&$@ that! I march back down to the ob’s office, literally, shaking and about to burst into tears (which, btw, I did do the day before!) I get there and I do get to talk to the nurse I talked to yesterday, who leaves for 30 minutes and comes back with my ob, who begins to tell me hi much of an awful, inconvenience of a patient, I am and she’s not surprised that my past obgyn didn’t even bother to tell me anything or test me for anything! I’m, then, told that I should stick with the <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> clinic and pay the money for, possibly, no reason and that because I have MassHealth, maybe there’s a residency clinic that will take my case! Like, wtf!?! It’s not even a matter of the money! It’s a matter of spending money for something that I might not even need, but I don’t know because no one will listen to me or give me any sort of answers! I, obviously, don’t want to go to this obgyn again, but I’m not ready to give up on finding a solution, besides, an expensive, possibly, unnecessary, procedure! What do I do? Where do I go now? Sorry, about the very long vent, but it felt even longer having to go through it!