This has been something that’s been on my mind for quite some time. I’m half black, half white. My husband is a ginger for lack of a better word. My cousin is also in the same boat and her kids look nothing like her. I had a lot of trouble growing up with my white mom who was no longer with my black father. Kids would see me with my mom and stepdad and tell me I was adopted. Or if I said that I was black they would tell me that I wasn’t really black because my mom was white.

I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant with my first child. I worry that my daughter will have similar struggles. I worry that she will have a hard time with her own racial identity because of “passing” as white while being a quarter black. I worry that people might see me as a black woman with a white baby and think I stole this child.

Does anyone have some words of wisdom? I know I should just not care what other people think but it’s so hard. I want what’s best for her.