Would I be a bad mom if I took this job?

Question

To start off, im a 26 year old, single mom to a 10 month old boy. 
So I have a new job offer to be a therapist to autistic children. It will be a very demanding job between the work load and hours. Hours will vary between 9a-8p. M-F.  With this job I will be able to start a career and move up in this field. I’ve already spend $160 to get CPR& 1st aid certificates and TB testing, etc. 
but now Im getting feedback from family and friends saying that isn’t the right choice to make right now and and this isn’t the right time to start a career, I should be spending as much time with my son as possible. Their saying I’m going to miss out on a lot of things with him especially since he’s so young. They’re saying I should wait until he’s a little older to start this career path. 
Poll question: would I be a bad mom if I took this job? 
I would be bettering our lives, getting experience in this line of work. 
Additional help. I have a 2nd job offer. Both jobs pay the same, however this second job I would just be a receptionist. I would make good money being a receptionist for this company, but not too much room for growth and not really a career, but it’s your typical M-F 9-5. So I wouldn’t be away from my son as much as Job 1. 
Which job would you take if you were in my shoes? 
I love my son so much. He’s my world. It will be hard to be away for so long, but I can better our future with job 1. 
Now I’m second guessing taking the offer from job 1. I was excited for it as first, now I’m thinking maybe I am a bad mom for considering job 1.

Answer

I don’t think taking the first job would make you a bad mom. I think the opposite actually. It’s better for you and it’ll be better for you son. Yes you’ll miss out on stuff, but you are doing what is best in the long run.
Ultimately however, the choice is yours only to make. Choose which one you would feel best about and not have any regrets about choosing.

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If you were a Dad asking this question no one would shame you. They'd praise you for being so aware. Then encourage you to do what's necessary to provide.

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do what makes YOU happy. i promise your kid will have a much better life if their mum doesn’t come home absolutely miserable every day because they hate their job.

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Take the first job and advance in your career. He's so young he won't really remember you being gone so much at the beginning. He would remember at an older age.

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If you want to take the job you’re doing what’s best for your son and yourself, don’t not take the job just because of what people are telling you go with where you’re heart is.

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Take the first job!!!

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I don't think this is a question of labels, so I'm not voting.
You need to consider that during the week, it sounds like most days you will barely see your son (or maybe won't see him at all some days), at least till he's a few years older & doesn't need quite as much sleep. And more importantly imo, he will barely see you, his mom. How do you feel about that? How do you think that will be for him?

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I’m not answering the poll because I don’t think you’d be a bad mom trying to provide and give your child a nice future, BUT I also don’t think it’s the right time to take this job. This age only comes once and flies by like crazy. I wouldn’t want you to miss out on these precious moments. Memories with your baby are once in a lifetime, a job opportunity can come any time...
But do what you think is right for you and your child. Don’t let anyone guilt you or shame you.

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I am a Registered Behavioral Technician working with kids with autism with those same hours. I was in a clinic and also in home. The thing about in home was the traveling. Sometimes I would get off at 8 and not be home until 8:45. I HATED that about my schedule. It’s a rewarding job in the end, but there are so many other sacrifices that come with it. Think about the paperwork(monthlies and session documentation) that you would do at home if they don’t have set hours for you to do it weekly, the amount of time you spend on the road, and sometimes it can be a bit inconsistent when it comes to in home sessions, because parents cancel. 
I say GO FOR IT if you truly want to be in this line of work! 
Congratulations on the job offer!

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Do what makes you happy. Take the job you love and want and can advance with.

Would I be a bad mom if I took this job?

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