Am I a bitch? Or legit reason to be mad?

Me and my fiancé moved into our home just back in May and we were doing very well with splitting chores and being good about cleaning up, but my fiancé recently changed jobs to overnights and I realize that’s a HUGE adjustment but since he has not really been helping with the cleaning. He works 5 days a week and the two days he is off I understand he wants to relax but I work as well, I work at a hospital 12 hour shifts 3 days a week right I know shorter shift but I still come home and take care of the kids and get dinner going, baths, homework whatever else. We had a big argument tonight because I was outside grilling and came in to not having the table cleared off for dinner, he was upstairs watching TV, so I cleared it off and he heard me banging around (I know passive aggressive) and then he came down and was like what’s wrong. I told him it was frustrating because I felt like he doesn’t really help anymore and he immediately got pissed and started cleaning. He picked up the living room and dining room and then the kitchen. Finally took out the trash that I had asked him a few times to do (wasn’t anything gross just boxes) all while mumbling while all I do is complain. I don’t believe I should have to ask him to help clean or I should have to tell him what to do. He wants me to tell him when stuff bothers me but then gets all huffy so it’s like well what’s the point. He also said “I don’t understand how you can be so happy with me and joking with me an hour ago to just being pissed” and I wanna be like “hormones man I’m pregnant”.Should I have to detail what I want done or shouldn’t he just know to pick up? Am I being to hard on him?