Scared to tell family

My husband and I currently have two little ones, ages 1 (17) months and 3 (4 in May) and I found out this morning that I am pregnant again. Now in seclusion my husband and I do a pretty good job, we are fans of no drama discipline and we are kind about things like a little too much dessert when we are with family, we like to not cause a scene and my eldest is a difficult 3 year old. but I feel like with my family we and our parenting styles are under a lot of scrutiny. I feel like my family thinks we are a mess. They

Make us second guess ourselves, it’s upsetting to my husband and I. I’m scared to tell them we are pregnant again. Am I alone on this ? Anyone have similar situations ?