Waxing caused severe ingown hairs? Help🙄

So I got my first wax 4 weeks ago and since my ingrown shave been TERRIBLE... like I had them on my bikini but like now OMFG they’re on my lips and everywhere else which had never happened, I’ve exfoliated lightly and to the point where I may have taken 7 layers off my vagina skin now I’m going to grow my hair out but should I just give up on waxing and stick to shaving?

I’m biracial with super curly hair if that helps, what do you ladies do?