Need Help spicing things up!!!

So im 20 and my man just turned 30 today and like our sex is just always the same like we done tried the basic positions and stuff i just need advice on how i can spice things up that would make it more interesting and yes i tried anal.....and also my man is a emotionless person like he's just very serious most of the time so how do i try something new if he always wanna control it??