Dating in 2019

Ok so I have been married before and engaged . Now dating . I feel as though some men play a lot of psychological games in dating these days . They’re emotionally disconnected , mommy issues , etc. I feel as though because I am a fat woman some men feel I am desperate or have low self esteem . Only to find that I am intelligent, creative, authentic , beautiful, sexy etc. I am newly single because of some of these above issues . Idk I would like to keep dating and meeting new people however I am skeptical of their ulterior motives and really rather not have my time wasted by lies and games . Is it has anyone else experienced some ridiculous dating experiences in 2019????

Any advice is appreciated ladies :)