FAMILY!?! Or FUTURE HUSBAND!?!

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I'm in a serious life or death situation... My story may be long but I need help.. 2months ago my SO against my approval let my brother move on to our new house. Two weeks after he came he moved his 18year old girlfriend in that is now PREGNANT. I told her She couldn't stay had to find other arrangements.. Everything.. They have my SO the guilt trip about her past and said how much they/she would help and how she had no where to go and was a foster child who's been on her own since 12 when her mother sold her for drugs..smh..My brother has been mixed up with the wrong type of people and is now addicted to Percocets.. He's having BIG issues paying rent and they walk around like a king and queen. My SO wants to put him out and tell her to go to a shelter.. I knw in my soul that if he does this that my brother will retaliate and try to get him beat up.. Or worse.. shot..I REALLY need some serious advice. My SO and I have a 3year old that I don't want exposed to this type of life style and tension.. A little history?? My brother and I use to be VERY close after he and his kids mother seperated he fell into a deep depression..which led to addiction, arrogance and pure anger.. He's my only brother and our mother was the strongest and greatest single mother I knw of. My mother divorced my father after many years of abuse and Miscarriages.. It pains me to believe that my brother is going down that same violent path.. I honestly don't knw what to do!! My brother is on probabtion for a drug charge so he can get out back in jail if anything goes wrong..Should I just have my SO kick him out and sorry about his possible action later?? Should I report him to the police?? Should I just sit back and hope for the best!?!? My home officially a war zone!! My SO has TRIED to talk to him many of times with no luck.. He's spiteful things and has sent the police to my SO job!! With an anonymous report of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE!! Then he tried to blame it on me!! Saying it was probably my wrong doing!..wtf!!!.. Things are going from bad to worse in a matter of days.. My SO and I are the only ones names on the lease but I'm honestly scared for his well being if he puts them out.. We talked to our landlord he said he can't get involved because of some bogus reasons... PLEASE!! vote and leave advice.. I'm almost considering taking our daughter and leaving myself..

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Report his drug use to his parole officer if you're scared of retaliation then let the system handle him from there. If you don't want to do that do like the other poster said and kick him out and then change the locks. Have the police present to escort him out of the house if you're worried about a violent out burst. Call your local department. NOT 911. And explain the situation and they should be able to send someone out to keep things from escalating. But with your 3 year old around you need to get him out you don't want her growing up thinking that's normal.

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Kick him out and change the locks (temporarily if you're renting). Get a restraining order if you have to.

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Contact his PO and they can take it from there (I am one, so I know what I would do). And get a TRO on him. If you are renting and don't have permission to be subletting to him, you should be able to kick him and her out. It sounds like he needs help and you enabling his behavior is NOT helping. Sometimes being the "bad guy" is really being the good guy. Good luck!

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I would go to the sheriffs office, report of the drug use and pay for an eviction notice and legally he will then have to get out. He will have up to I think it is 30 days to get out. Sometimes your family s.o and child need to come before your brother. Don't worry about what he might do, get it done legally and there shouldn't be a problem and if he tries anything then throw him in jail. And tell the girlfriend to take her pity party bs on somewhere because she's not welcome to live their either. She's 18 and welcome to the real world.

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First of all your SO moved him in against your wishes... He should have known better, that's his fault now... when is your lease up?! Cause u can also wait until then and everybody can go their separate way without retaliation or talk to your landlord about ending your lease early .. cause it sounds dangerous especially since you know how your brother is and what he might do... I hope neither him or his pregnant gf have keys to your home

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Contact the police they can send a officer to help evict him.  But it might take time depends on your state.  But regardless be careful!  Is there anywhere safe for your daughter to go?  I'd send her there

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can you help them find a place? saying it's going to be best for their baby? that's a really tough decision and horrible situation. I would be having words to your husband about moving them in in the first place. good luck!

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They can't get a job?

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They're unathroized tenants. The landlord is being cheap and doesn't want to pay the legal fees to evict them. Legally, they aren't allowed there if they are not on the lease.

Can you tell your brother the landlord is threatening eviction (even if he isn't) if they don't move out?

What about helping find a place they can afford to move into? Maybe giving them a plan will help ease the tension of asking them to move out.

You have a daughter whose brain is like a sponge and everything she sees, she absorbs. He should have enough respect for his niece to either stop and/or move out. He needs rehab.

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