Am I the asshole? Baby shower invites

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So my mom is throwing a baby shower for me soon as my baby is due in November. A bit about me- i have about 4 friends that are girls and most the rest are guys who are my best friend gamer nerds🥰 My husband is also my absolute rock in my life. I have severe anxiety to the point where I take Xanax but haven’t been able to take any because I’m growing a human🤰🏽 My mom is very old school and weird when it comes to guys. She doesn’t even allow herself to have men other than her family as friends on Facebook. The only one is my dad. She always thought I was odd and trying to get boys attention growing up because they just happened to be who I’m more comfortable with. Anyways, the issue now is, she’s throwing my baby shower but no men allowed. Not even my husband is allowed. Just “ladies”. I’m fucking heart broken because I know she’s going to invite family I don’t even like, friends of hers that don’t even know me, and my actual friends and husband are not allowed to be at a celebration about me and my baby. I begged her to change her mind but she still refuses. She’s so stuck in her old fashioned mind that nothing can change her mind and now I don’t even think i want to attend my own baby shower.😓 Am I ungrateful? Should I just go, sit there and smile and pretend to be happy for a whole day when I’m really dying inside?

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I’d tell her you and your husband will be planning your shower instead. I wouldn’t let her throw me a party and then make it what SHE wants and not about me.

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If she’s paying I think you should just appreciate it. Even if they’re only friends of your mom you will at least get gifts to help out with your baby. Honestly if I were you I would just throw two showers! One your mom does, and one your husband or best friend does. 😊

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Men always come to the ones in our families. I guarantee you somebody will say you’re being ungrateful but I think that it’s your baby shower and you should be able to invite anyone you want especially your own husband. It’s 2019 the world is a different place. you should have a serious talk with your mom about what you want for your own baby shower. I would tell her that you invited them already and leave it at that would she turn them away if they showed?

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I wouldn't show up. I'd make my OWN baby shower same day and time and invite the ones you want.
This baby shower she planned is just for her to show off.

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I would have an honest talk with your Mom and tell her this. Tell her that you understand that she has different values and you respect that, but that it would mean the world to have your friends there (future uncles). If she can't understand that, then I would probably decline the shower. A shower should be fun, not stressful.

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You can have more than one baby shower.  Let her throw the one she wants,  but one of your friends can throw a separate one where you can invite anyone you want.

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Wow not even your husband I would throw a baby shower by our own if my mom would do something like this

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If uninvite her to the shower and invite people who YOU want to be there.

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Let her do get thing and then gave a baby-Q or something that you gave control of.

Am I the asshole? Baby shower invites

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