Anybody delivering alone?

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This may sound stupid or petty if so I apologize in advance.

I'm not nervous for anything this pregnancy, now that baby is moving a ton anyways, I'm 20 weeks we have a budget plan to buy everything plus...been here done this you know? I'm slightly concerned about how my two year old will be with not being an only child but he'll adjust eventually.

Except delivery... We have nobody we trust to watch our son so I'm having this baby Alone and I'm terrified. I have no family so that isn't an option I only have my husband and son, I went to the hospital for a migraine awhile ago and as soon as the gave me any medication I felt a MASSIVE need to be home with them I NEEDED my boys and I gave myself a huge anxiety attack.

I figure if I can find a mindset now of I'll be okay to do this alone then I actually will be okay with it. Has anyone else not had anybody with them? How'd you make it through? I realize my situation could be worse but still wanting advice

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I read another moms post about finding another mom in her lamas group who was a month behind her due date to join her. I thought that was really sweet. Moms joining moms, women helping women and two women forging a lifelong bond.

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I would consider homebirth so he can be with you. As well as checking with your local hospitals on policies and asking care providers because I'm a doula and midwifery student and I know here in my state we have hospitals that allow siblings in the room as long as there is a care provider for them.

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Is there any reason why he can't be in the delivery room too? Just asking

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By any chance do you know if they gave you reglan? It's a drug they use in migraine cocktails. It causes SEVERE anxiety in people along with mental changes. I bet you that's what they gave.

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I had a friend watch our 18 month old while I was in the delivery room. Maybe a close friend? I would really suggest having your husband there with you. He won't want to miss it and you'll want the support.

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I think ur husband should be with you when you are delivering- do u have a friend or anyone you know that can just watch him for that day? Or have someone on your husbands side? There must be 1 person?

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You say your son has health problems. Does he qualify for respite care? There are qualified people to watch youngsters with health problems. 
 I labored without my husband last baby, he was fixing the shower for the midwife, but he was just in the next room. He also happened to run to the hardware store and almost missed the birth!

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Oh sweetie that sounds tough. Is your hospital nearby?

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You may need to do some looking into doing a home birth if your first child had no complications. I heard it's a wonderful experience and your son will be home with you and your husband. 
I'm sorry your in-laws aren't being very gracious. I know some are very hard to deal with and its aggravating and with all these hormones things get magnetized by a million. 
Good luck.

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I would look for someone in your church or a nearby college to come and stay with your son at the hospital or at your home, or even a co-worker. You have enough time to put aside some cash to give them for the day, and it will be so worth it to have your husband with you. Local colleges might be able to give you the name if a student in an early childhood program... You know those students will love kids!

Anybody delivering alone?

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