Do you think that people in toxic or abusive relationships can have a normal relationship with someone different after?

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Talking about the abuser. 
We all hear “once a cheater, always a cheater”, but is it the same for flat out shitty partners? 
For example, by the end of my last relationship I wasn’t allowed to go out with my friends or see my family without my then bf with me. Is that something he would eventually expect from every girl he dates? Or would a person like him be more situational in their abuse? 
I feel like straight up abusive people would be abusive in any relationship, but what about the relationships that aren’t putting anyone in danger, just are really unhealthy? 
(I don’t know if this is controversial or more just debatable so I’ll move if it doesn’t belong)

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With intensive therapy, anything is possible. The problem is they have to be completely open and willing to receive this help and they have to stick with it. Otherwise, they’ll keep getting the same outcomes in relationships.

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My boyfriend used to be a pretty toxic person at the start of our relationship. He would go on on social media accounts ‘secretly’ and look through my messages, he would give me the silent treatment for no reason, he would sometimes pressure me for sex when I really didn’t want it. Now, he’s a completely different person, he’s so considerate and respectful, and wouldn’t do anything if he knew it would hurt me or upset me. So yes, I think people who were once toxic can change and be a great partner, but only if they really want to change. They have to acknowledge their behaviour first, which many don’t.

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Sometimes when in a different relationship a guy acts like an entirely different person... key word is sometimes.

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If they seek help for their abusive/toxic  nature than maybe. But they have to be completely transparent about everything and fully accept that they’re the problem before anything else

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My husband was in a bad relationship before me. They treated each other badly. She purposefully pushed his buttons and he was very jealous. They had been broken up for a year and a half when we started dating. I never saw that side of him. He learned from his past relationship and picked someone (me) who was better suited for him. We didn't engage in explosive fighting. We didn't yell or name call. Everything was and still is different with us. I believe he was probably a horrible boyfriend to her. But he's the best husband in the world to me. And she's happily married to a wonderful man too. So it all worked out in the end.

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I've always been in very fucked up relationships.. 
Each relationship has just made me worse to be in a relationship with.. especially when it comes to being intimate.
Therapy only works if you want it too.. and I just like fucked up human beings that like to make me feel like I'm worthless.. because I think I'll be able to fix them.. and the only thing I gain is a worse self-esteem than before.

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Depends. Just like anything else, change only happens if something changes. That person could make a choice to change their behaviour and go on to have a healthy relationship or they can do nothing and continue the pattern.

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It depends on the issue the person(s) are having. 
I had issues as an adolescent, I hated the world and everyone in it. I met my 1st boyfriend at 17 and we were together for 5 years. I treated him like shit, I cared about him but didn't respect him.
- I had 1 relationship in between when I was with a narc, which was AWFUL. I think my ex will be toxic forever.- 
Fast forward 12years and I'm happily married, I'm the perfect wife and an amazing mum.  
Ultimately people change and grow, they learn from their mistakes and move on in life. 
If you have someone who is damaged, that never seeks help. Of course it will continue to effect their lives until they care to change. No one can force them to change, but if they find someone or something that's worth changing for, then yes I believe people are able to have successful relationships after shit ones.

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Yeah its possible.

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Depends. If they get therapy, maybe it'll be different. My ex has borderline personality disorder. Based on texts I get from him every now & then, he'll treat another girl the same he did me. If it's less severe, maybe if they get help and try to change they can be normal.

Do you think that people in toxic or abusive relationships can have a normal relationship with someone different after?

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