I met my fiancé June 2018. I’d known him for 4 years by that time but through Facebook. He’s a musician so my friends would always tell me about him and swoon over him but I...just...never...saw it 😂🤷🏾‍♀️ I got to a point where everything he did would irritate me and I just disliked him so much.

He had actually messaged me in 2014 but I never responded 😂 (talk about “the love of your life might be the guy you ignored in your DMs” 💀). Anyway I took time off to work on myself and learn myself and “do me” and during that time I was off social media. When I got back the first post I saw was his and I commented with a joke (not expecting a response) but he responded and it went from there. Our first phone call was just 6 hours of us talking.

Hardest thing was the distance. I live in England and he’s in Zimbabwe. But we made it work. We dated for 8 months before we met in person and it was no different except we could actually touch each other and be intimate 😜. My first visit was just 3 weeks and I cried so much when I had to leave. As soon as I got back I booked my next visit back home and was there End of July til beginning of September.

I had a plan to get married by 24 and have my first child etc, but the plan was looking more unrealistic as the time passed. I had told him this plan but I didn’t want him to be pressured either so I just put the “marriage by 24” thing in the back of my mind. But on August 4th, 2019, we planned to go to this music thing called “Cookout” which is just music and food and loads of fun. His brother was there and he’s a videographer/photographer. He told me he was gonna take a few pictures of us and at first I was like I’m not in the mood but he convinced me.

He wasn’t even nervous or showing any signs and tbh I didn’t think it would be a proposal because I told him the kind of proposal I wanted. He walked me down the road we walked daily together and he started talking and got on one knee but he couldn’t talk Cos he was getting emotional and all I was saying was “babe stop fkn playing with me, you joke too much, stop playing.” And he kept saying “I’m not playing!” And I’m like “you play too much that’s what your problem is!” And he said “Niaa, I’M DEADASS!” And I literally looked him dead in the eyes and said “really?” And he said “yes really...I want you to be wife, the mother of our 4 beautiful kids, my partner, my fiancé, will you marry me?” And well as the pictures show...

I SAID YES!

• Had he planned out something big and elaborate I would’ve known which is why he did it spontaneously. But he’s still going to take me where I wanted to get engaged. This was so perfect for me because it felt real and special to me. It’s actually even better than what I had imagined for myself.

• I’m 23 and happy to say I will be married next August and we will be trying for a baby next year too 🙈

This relationship taught me a lot about myself. I spent a chunk of my dating life obsessed about being with someone because I grew up with confidence issues and needed to be in a relationship to feel wanted and loved but once I took that break I found my confidence and stopped settling for cheaters and liars and all the pos guys I used to be involved with and look what happened - I found an incredibly amazing guy who would move heaven and earth to see me happy and would give me the world on a silver platter if he could. I’ve never had so much loyalty and friendship and unconditional love and acceptance and joy in a relationship but he’s shown me all that and more all that whilst helping me let go of past hurt. Don’t give up on love 💖 or your dreams of love. Everything will happen even when it seems impossible.