Y’all. My husband and I have been together 5 years and married 2 years. Before our daughter was born, I struggled to get him to help with cleaning or laundry. Our six month old was born this past March. In the beginning, he helped a little, but never got up with her at night. She’s never been a good sleeper, so she’d get up every 1.5-2.5 hours. At about 4 months old she started getting up 1-2 times per night for about an hour-hour and a half. . Our daughter currently sleeps usually (occasionally 12am) 11pm-6am and wakes up once. Keep in mind we both work full time jobs. I work 8-4:30 Monday-Friday and he works 6am to 6pm. Monday-Friday. I get up at 6 and get her fed, dressed, pack her diaper bag, feed our dogs and let them out, and drive her to the babysitter. After work, I pick her up, feed her, soothe her, wash bottles, cook dinner, clean the kitchen, bathe her, do her laundry. Not to mention I manage and pay the bills, grocery shop, and do any of the other cleaning. My husband gets home at 6:30, eats dinner, refuses to help or even feed our daughter, holds her for 15 minutes when I shower and then goes to bed. I understand he works a lot. Lately he’s been complaining of headaches and viruses and I think it’s to be able to go to bed even earlier. On weekends, he continues to refuse to get up with the baby, put her to bed, or take care of her in the morning when she actually wakes up. He says he won’t feed her cause he doesn’t wanna choke her but he used to feed her a bottle all of the time. He doesn’t wanna hold her Cause he’s got football to watch. He doesn’t help out at all with housework and doesn’t wanna watch the baby. If i wanted to leave the house he makes me take her with me. I’m just so mentally exhausted from not ever sitting down and relaxing that I’m about to go crazy. Our families live 4 hours away and I have no one here for support. All my husband and I do is fight over the unequal work load. I get told women do it everyday and I need to suck it up and he’s tired of hearing about me being overwhelmed and needing emotional support. Honestly what upsets me the most is that our daughter is starting to scream when he holds her and I leave the room. She screams the entire time I get a shower in the evenings and the entire time he has her in his arms. My parents come up sometimes and she never acts like that towards them. It’s like she senses that he doesn’t wanna take care of her and she wants nothing to do with him. All of

The fighting is making me crazy and I don’t even know if I want to do this marriage anymore. We don’t ever spend time together and rarely talk like we used to. We go days without kissing. I just don’t know what to do. Mostly I’m afraid of having to give my daughter up on weekends for him to watch her alone when he doesn’t even want to feed her. I also don’t want to live alone in an apartment when I don’t know many people around here. I can’t move back home because my job pays so well. I feel stuck and trapped.