What are you supposed to do when...

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What are you supposed to do when you love someone but you’re tired of their negativity? I love my boyfriend dearly but I’m sick of listening to his everyday complaints. It’s not often that I am happy and stress-free so when I am, the last thing I want is someone to bring me right back down. I feel like if I tell him this, he’ll just get mad at me and feel as if he can’t talk to me about things. And if I don’t, then he’ll just think I’m ignoring him or being a bitch, idk. Sometimes I’ll wait a few hours to reply to his texts about him complaining about his day because I’m just so annoyed. :/ 🙄

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Well definitely communicate with him. Sometimes people need therapy or some other form of help to manage stress. If nothing seems to work then eventually you have to love yourself more to realize your own happiness is being compromised.

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I’ll leave. I feed off others vibes so I seriously can’t be around negativity

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My husband is this way sometimes, it used to be ALWAYS, but he's changed a lot because we work together on communicating. Some days can be bad because we all can have a bad day, but I basically told him straight that I need his negative thinking about every situation to stop or keep it to himself bc its bringing me and my thought process down. I asked why is he such a negative thinker and he just feels his whole childhood was negative and it's all he knows. My husband can be narcissistic at times but I've been with him for 10 yrs and I totally learned what works. Just try communicating better and finding out why he's like that all the time.

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Reply to him in a positive way don't over think it like him

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Maybe he's going through something himself and this is his way of dealing with it. I hear what you're saying though, my partner sometimes complains alot and I just want to tell him to suck it up because life is too short. I'm getting better at ignoring him (not totally) and not letting him get to me. He's a nice guy don't get me wrong, I told him he needs to be happy not for me but for our daughter. Once he's happy, she's happy and I'm more than happy. I've noticed that he perks up alot when I show concern and I usually start with something like "I do love you, but I've noticed you keep ____''.

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If you love him and he loves you, then you'll be able to have a constructive conversation together. Try to wait for a time when he's in a good mood and generally receptive to an open chat. Reassure him that you love him, and you want to be able to enjoy your time together. Explain that you understand that everyone has rough patches, and you're happy to let him lean on you when he needs to vent. However, when all he does is complain without sharing any of the good things in his life, it can become very draining on you.

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