How can you know that a guy wants a serouis relationship or not? (I mean about future)

I don't wanna ask him directly and look so pushy!

I'm afraid ☹️ I was in a serious relationship for 3years and he cheated then I met an asshole who abused me too for so long, after all those break down I finally met this guy and I really think that It's him but I don't really know what he's thinking and don't wanna lose him. In the other hand I'm afriad of wasting my time and getting nothing just another break down

It will really break me into the pieces and destroy me and all those dreams I had for myself and everything that I ever thought about

Ugh I feel so insecure I don't know what to do

I don't wanna let these thoughts make me destroy all happiness that I have with him rn

Help me pllleaaaaseee